[mint] A game of chance

missionspot.blogspot.com - Have you been watching the new series 'House of Cards' on Foxtel? The husband and I are quiet into the series - it's really interesting and the last episode in particular was quiet thought provoking for me.
Claire, the wife of the main character - Francis - is having an affair with a man named Adam. Whilst with him they have an argument about leaving Francis and she said that she couldn't leave him for Adam because she needed to be with someone who she could love for more than a week.

It made me think of past relationships I have had and how one thing led to another and how I ended up with my husband.

Are all relationships a game of chance or do we have more of a say in who we end up with?

Some people say that men are like cabs and we can't be with them if they don't have their light on (I.e if they are not mentally available). That men like to play the field and when they are done playing that they'll make the next pretty face their bride.

I'd like to give men a little more credit then that.

But I'd also like to think that women have any impact on how relationships play out!

I had a relationship with a guy who I could love, but like Claire I knew that I could not love him forever. I told him that at that time in my life we were both like bower birds - attracted to shiny objects (I.e other people) and therefore we couldn't be in a relationship.

I had a relationship with a guy who had - in my mind - an alcoholic father. He would consume a case of beer followed by a bottle of red in one sitting. Now I had come from a family were on Christmas my Dad would do a beer run and pick up 3 cases (two were for my grandparents) - if we didn't have Christmas at our house then we would have beer leftover the following year.

I looked into the future of this relationship and thought to myself that I didn't want my children growing up with an alcoholic Poppie, so we broke up.

I went through a stage where I was attracted to men in uniform... both the military and the sporting kind. I don't think it was specifically because of the uniform - I think I was attracted to their risk taking personalities. But deep down inside I'm not a risk taker so it never worked.

I like to be organised, I like to have a schedule, I like to have an idea of how thinking are going to work out - and when things get out of hand I normally freak out... And then came along a man who understood me and could calm me down in my freak out moments - so I married him!

To my wonderful husband - I love you so much and thank you for our first year of our wonderful marriage topped off with the birth of our son! I love that you eliminate the game of chance from our lives.

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Posted by Hodie J